Online Dating Girls Articles
There is a saying that "you never get
a second chance to make a good first impression." With that in mind,
it is vital to be fully prepared to make a great impression on each
date you go on. Here are 10 tips for men on dating success and
making an impression that will last.
1. Take a Bath or
One of the worst things you could do when going
out on a date (especially if it is your first date) is to turn up
unshaven, looking dirty and smelling. Women are the cleaner of the
species and will partly judge you on how hygienic you are. After
all, you would be appalled if she turned up for the date looking
like a mutt dog with tangled fur that hadn't bathed for days.
It doesn’t cost anything to take a bath and to make an
effort to look and smell nice. Remember, bad breath and body odor
are an instant turn off and she will assume that this is how you are
all the time even if you are just having a bad day. As a result, she
won’t be able to see beyond your appearance.
2. Arrive on
Whatever you do, don’t turn up late. Turning up
late will send out all the wrong impressions. At first she may think
she's been stood up, but after arriving late her opinion will change
to you being unreliable or not caring enough about her to be on
time. If you are picking her up from her home then it is advisable
to turn up five minute before you are due. Any earlier and you might
catch her adjusting her makeup or still getting ready. Five minutes
early is the earliest you should arrive. But never be late.
3. Give Her a Thoughtful Gift
A woman feels
special when the man she is with gives her a thoughtful gift. What
is a thoughtful gift? Well, you obvious know some things about a
woman before a first date that came from phone conversations,
emails, etc. Take what you know and buy her an appropriate date
gift. For example, let's say that the woman really likes golf. There
are companies that make chocolate golf sets - a miniature chocolate
club with a chocolate tee and chocolate golf ball. This would make a
great first date gift. For a generic thoughtful gift, buy a
chocolate rose. That's always appropriate without being overboard.
4. Be a Gentleman
Hold the door open for her,
let her walk through the doors first, pull her chair, and be polite
to her along with the people around you. Women like to feel special
and by treating her like a lady she will think you are fantastic.
5. Compliment Her
The first thing to say to
her is you look beautiful before you even ask how she is. Keep up
the compliments throughout your date, but do not go over board (3-4
for the night should be more than enough). A woman loves to be
complimented, to feel beautiful and to think that you are attracted
to her. The more sincere and observant your compliment, the bigger
impact it will have. But remember again not to go overboard. More
than four compliments may make you appear fake and not real.
6. Listen to Her and Ask Questions
wants to spend the whole night listening to someone talk about
themselves. But you do have to get to know each other. Ask her
questions, but more importantly listen to what she has to say. A
woman is attracted to a man who is genuinely interested in hearing
what she has to say. Spend a lot more time asking her questions and
letting her talk than talking yourself.
7. Prepare for
The last thing you want is to be
sitting at a meal with nothing to talk about. Think about your date
and what you would like to know about her. You may think that it is
easy to talk and that you will not run out of questions to ask or
that you will automatically have the answers but until you are in
the situation, you have no idea what it will be like. Avoid talking
about past relationships or other women while on the date. Keep your
focus, attention, and conversation fully on her.
for the Date
It's virtually always appropriate for a
gentleman to offer to pay for the date. When a man takes it upon
himself to pay for the date, he is displaying that old act of
"chivalry" that is missing from many men these days. However, some
women feel more comfortable going "dutch" and if she insists on
this, then don't resist. To avoid awkwardness, make sure you let her
know before the date that you plan on paying for it.
The Goodnight Kiss
Some women prefer not to kiss after a
first date, while others may be disappointed if the guy doesn't even
try. There is no easy answer to this question. Body language and
chemistry throughout the night is key in the decision you make. If
it feels right, then you may want to consider making the move. If it
doesn't feel right then a friendly hug may be more appropriate.
10. I'll Call You
Only tell her that you will
call her if you mean it and intend on seeing her again. Do not,
under any circumstances, tell her you will call her if you are not
interested and have no plans to call her. In this case, when saying
goodbye, just say, "It was nice meeting you" and wish her luck. Or
you could just say good night, smile and walk a way. But if you do
like her and are interested, then you must let her
Searching for romance over the
Internet has become more and more popular over the years. Online
dating is nearly a billion dollar industry and scammers are cashing
in on the trend, taking advantage of unsuspecting men and women.
Every day, scammers target hundreds of online daters, and
many have fallen prey to scams that cost online daters, on average,
of more than $3,000. They do it by posing as women overseas and send
you a note through an online dating service. They pretend to be
interested in you and provide their "email address" so that you can
continue communicating offline.
Scammers use email to try
and build an online relationship with you and they eventually
profess their love. Once you do too, the scam kicks into high gear.
An "emergency" (mother hospitalized, surgery needed) suddenly arises
and they ask for money. Or they say they want to meet you, but need
money to apply for a VISA to come see you. Little does the victim
know that he's talking to professional con artists and has likely
been communicating with another man, not a woman! The scams can get
quite complex, including men hiring a girl to call you and pose as
your online love interest.
You can avoid being a victim of
online relationship scams by taking note of these warning signs:
Being Asked for Money
This is the most
telltale sign of a scam. No matter what you think or what other
people might say, it just isn’t a normal behavior to ask for money
if you've never met someone in person. Scammers are quite creative –
they will ask you to help with airfare so they can come and visit,
cash a check, help out with an emergency for you to send a money
order and so on. Some will ask for money fairly quick and others
will show patience while trying to build a relationship with you,
getting you to fall for the imaginary person in the profile they set
Initiating First Contact
virtually always are the first to initiate contact with you. If you
get an email (or wink) from someone overseas, it's best not to
Wanting to Communicate via Email
online scammer will want to take your communications to email as
soon as possible because they know their profile may soon be deleted
when an online dating service notices their pattern of emailing
people. So many times in the very first or second email they will
give you an email address and ask you to email them.
Some scammers will cut or scan photos from
magazines. Trust your instincts. If you feel the photo is
suspicious, chances are it’s probably a fake. But that's not always
the case, as many scammers will actually steal someone else's photo
and post it. Photos are usually of a very beautiful woman. Don't
fall for it.
Unwillingness to Share Information
The person you are talking to showers you with attention and
he seems to be overly interested in everything about you, yet
doesn’t share a lot of information about themselves. If they are
avoiding your questions like a seasoned politician, then run..
If you are exchanging emails
with someone overseas, watch out for inconsistencies like a
variation in the style of the email, language differences,
repetitive statements, etc.. The scammer who initiated the
communication with you may not always be the same one that carries
it through. If something doesn't seem right about the emails you are
receiving, then its not right.
Besides looking out for red
flags you can take other measures to further protect yourself:
1) Be the one always initiating communication via online
2) Guard your privacy.
3) Communicate with
people locally, not overseas.
4) Trust your gut instinct from
5) Never reply to communications from someone who
sends you a note and immediately includes their email address for
you to continue the communication.
Many people have fallen
prey to online relationship scams. In one case, two men showed up at
the same airport to meet a girl from overseas that they had sent
money to for her "flight". Both were left holding flowers at the
airport staring at each other. They had apparently been duped by the
While it is true that there are many people
who find life partners over the Internet, it is best to always be on
your guard when using online dating services. Don't get scammed!
The competition for attention on
online dating services is intense. So intense, in fact, that some
people resort to lying or posting outdated photos to try and attract
that next date.
It's vital that you are honest in your
profile and through your photos so that you don't meet (or interact)
with others under false pretenses.
So then what are some
important things you can do to build a better profile? Here are
three specific profile tips you can use to improve your profile
1) Avoid Negativity
Have you ever
gone out on a first date where the person you were with complained
about his/her work, ex, etc? Such negative talk is a major turnoff.
Likewise, negativity is a major turnoff in your profile. Being
positive is like a magnet. Being negative is like wearing a skunk
aroma. Here's how one person actually began her profile:
be quite honest, I have been putting this off as long as possible. I
have friends who use Match and have had some terrible dates."
This begs to ask, "what are you doing here?" Now contrast
that to this profile introduction:
"I've heard online dating
is a great way to meet awesome people and that's why I want to meet
Which one of these profile intros is more attractive?
The one who wants to date "losers" or the one that wants to date
"winners"? Psychologically everyone wants to be a winner. Therefore
in your profile, avoid anything negative like the plague. Be
If you have anything negative in your profile ("I
hate country music," "the last guy I dated was a liar and cheater,"
"I'm sick of being alone," "I'm sick of the bar scene," etc.) then
go edit it out immediately and replace it with something positive
("I love independent music and artists, like..."). Always be
positive; not just in your profile, but also in life.
Go From Typical to Unique
Read this profile and tell me
if you recognize it:
"I am a fun person who loves movies and
music. I like walks on the beach, good conversation, and dining out.
I'm looking for someone who is fun and can make me laugh."
Unfortunately, the above describes most profiles - typical
and non-informative. Beef up your profile to be more descriptive and
unique. Instead of "I like movies," say "my favorite movie is ____
because _______" or use a movie character to describe you. "I'm a
lot like _____ in ______ because _______."
Use clever words
that are descriptive. Instead of saying "on hot days I like to go to
the ocean or on a hike," say, "on a sizzling day my adventurous side
leads me to traversing the ocean on a sailboat or discovering a new
waterfall that I can cool off under."
Instead of "I like to
discover new things," say, "I'm a lot like Indiana Jones in that I
love exploring the mysteries of life, while educating my mind to
appreciate new things."
Strive to make your profile
unordinary by spicing it up sentence by sentence. Be descriptive,
unique, and fun!
3) Filter Out Unwanteds
profile isn't about getting responses. It is about getting responses
from the type of person you are attracted to. Therefore, use
descriptions to help narrow your focus to what you want so that you
get responses from who you're looking for.
Instead of "I'm
looking for someone fun and humorous," say, "I'm looking for a
lighthearted man between the ages of 24 and 29 who enjoys the
humorous side of life. If you are clean-shaven and can hold a
conversation during a 150 mile car journey, then we may be a match.
In the above example, you created three filters -
an age filter (24 and 29), and appearance filter (clean-shaven) and
a communication filter (good-communicator). And you did it without
offending. But you also created a response filter ("...we may be a
match. Email me.") You've helped tell the person what the next step
is if they meet your criteria. You've created a call to action,
which will help direct interested parties to email you versus
Change your header message
and main photo often. It keeps it fresh and interesting for people
doing searches and increases the chances of it being viewed. Be
creative. View some of our Top 10 lists of funny and philosophical
A great way to make your profile better is
to analyze profiles you really like. What is it that you like about
them? What makes the profiles different?
Now what will you
do to make your profile different?
Friendship is a perfect bond between
two close individuals. Friends are those on whom we can confide and
share our feelings. You cannot choose your family but you can
definitely choose friends. There are things which you may not be
able to share with your parents, or spouses but you can surely talk
and share with your friends. Friendship is a special bond. You need
to nurture your relationship with your friend.
You can share
your joys, tears, secrets, jokes with your friend. There are many
friends but to find a true friend is special. True friends are not
easy to find and when you find a true friend, do not lose him/her.
You can express your love for your friends with Friendship Sayings.
Friendship sayings are a nice way of appreciating your
friend. It shows that your friends mean a lot to you. There are many
websites that are available which caters to Friendship Sayings. You
can select end number of Sayings on Friendship and tell your
feelings through this sayings.
Having great friends is a
blessing. Not everyone is blessed with good friends. Friends are for
lifetime. Friendship quotes can also be dedicated to friends. Seeing
a group of friends will make you jealous, because friends are life.
You will wish that you too had such great friends. The message of
friendship is a perfect message that says that you are lucky if you
have a real best friend.
Friendship Sayings reveal to you
the real meaning of friendship in a poetic style. You write this
sayings and gift it to your friends during friendship day, their
birthdays or just to say that you care for your friend. A friendship
saying can be thoughtful, funny, humorous, emotional or about true
There are many bondings that exists in the world,
yet friendship is the most pleasant relationship. You should be
aware of friends who take advantage of your friendship. There have
been many movies and novels that are based on friendship. Friendship
is a bond of innocent feelings. You are what your friends are. Long
There’s a nervousness, thrill, and
excitement that occurs when meeting a person for the first time face
to face. Yet amongst the thrill, remember to always be on your guard
when going out on a date with someone you barely know.
are 12 tips on dating safety to help you get started:
Arrange to meet him.
When meeting for the first time,
never allow your date to pick you up from your home. In fact, your
date shouldn't even know your home address yet!
in public places.
For a first meeting, always meet in a
public place where other people are in close proximity. You may also
want to consider going out with a group of people, or a double date.
3. Go dutch by paying half of the bill.
always respectful for the man to offer to pay the bill.
Unfortunately, some men ruin the gesture by expecting something in
return. Therefore it may not be a bad idea for you to go dutch. Pay
half the bill so that you won't feel under any obligation to
"return" the favor.
4. Remember that alcohol affects your
The biggest threat to a person's judgment,
when on a date, is alcohol. Not only does it affect your judgment,
but alcohol also lessens your inhibitions. If you are drinking, keep
your drink in sight at all times and don’t get so drunk that you
don’t know what you are doing. Better yet, try to avoid alcohol on
your first date.
5. Use your own mode of
Provide your own transportation to your
public meeting place and make sure you have more than enough gas.
6. Don't assume that a man is safe.
important never to let your guard down when on a first date. Never
assume a man is safe just because he claims to be religious or a
7. Don’t let him know where you live.
If you want to see him again, arrange a second date and then
take it from there.
8. Avoid secluded areas.
Remember - stay in a public place for your first date and
avoid secluded areas such as parks.
9. Listen to your
If something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't.
And if you haven’t met him before, and you know at the beginning of
the date that something doesn’t feel right, then leave immediately.
10. Always let someone else know where you're going.
Be sure someone knows where you are going and who you'll be
with. You might even consider arranging a time to call and check in.
Or you could arrange to meet up with friends later that night.
11. Give him your cell phone number.
safer to give out a cell phone number instead of your home phone
number (click here for why).
12. Always remain alert.
Even if you’re having a blast and the chemistry is great,
it’s a good idea to remain alert the whole evening. Make sure you
have a cell phone on you.
Dating safely is very important.
In the initial stages of dating and online dating, you are still
getting to know someone you know very little about. By creating a
safe environment to know the person, you’re creating a better
situation for yourself.